Children should begin taking responsibility and doing chores from a young age.  There are plenty of chores that even your preschooler can do.  Chores help children feel like part of the family.  It also brings the family together.  It teaches them to be helpful and kind.  They also will appreciate little things that are done for them.  The children will also have a feeling of pride when they are able to do something on their own.  Always remember to tell the children you appreciate them helping and what a great job they are doing.  This will help build their self-esteem and self-confidence.




Preschool Age

  • Pick out clothes (even if they don’t match)
  • Put away any toys he or she was playing with
  • Throw away garbage
  • Put dirty clothes in a hamper
  • Set the table



Elementary School Age

  • Do homework
  • Make the bed
  • Clear the table
  • Feed a pet
  • Take a shower or bath
  • Put away clean, folded laundry
  • Pour cereal for breakfast
  • Dust
  • Water plants


Middle School Age

  • Wash dishes
  • Rack leaves
  • Shovel snow
  • Make a simple basic dinner
  • Do laundry
  • Clean the house
  • Walk the dog
  • Vacuum
  • Clean
  • Bring in the mail


High School Age

  • Cook dinner
  • Take care of younger siblings
  • Take care of a pet
  • Have a part time job
  • Shop for groceries with a list
  • Iron clothes
  • Mop the floors
  • Mow lawn

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Student Responsibility for Grades


By middle school students should take responsibility for their grades.  If a student receives a low grade on a test he or she should be able to say why they received that grade.  They should also not blame everyone else.  The student should reflect on what he or she did to prepare for the test.  The student should also figure out what is something that he or she did not do that he or she can try next time.


Did the child study?

Did the child go to extra help?

Did the child complete his or her homework?

Was the child physically present in class?

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Student Responsibility for Homework


Students should be responsible for completing their homework and projects.  When students are beginning school it is very common for parents to check that the student completed all of his or her homework and that it was done correctly.  As students become older and more responsible they should be responsible for completing their own homework.

By middle school the students should be able to complete their own homework without being told to do it.  They should be able to look in the agenda book and make sure that every part of the homework is complete.  However, they most likely will still need help planning and completing projects and other long term assignments.

By high school the students should be able to complete their own homework, projects, and long term assignments.

  • Students can check off each homework assignment as they complete it.
  • Students can use a planning sheet (there is a free one at to plan long term assignments.
  • If necessary, students can also use an incentive chart to encourage them to be responsible for their own work.  Some great and free incentives could be an extra hour of TV on the weekend, staying up an hour later on Friday night, or being able to choose dinner or dessert one night.

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Student Responsibility for Books


Students should begin to take responsibility for their actions and learning.  At different ages students should be held accountable for different aspects of their learning.  A main aspect that students should become responsible for is remembering to bring the correct books to and from school.  The students should be starting to do this on their own in fourth grade.  At the beginning of sixth grade they might have same difficulties again.  This is the first time the students have a locker and have to figure out what they need on their own and make it to the bus on time.  Here are some ways to help students remember the correct books.

  • Have a sheet (there is a free one on so the students can check off which books they need to bring home when they write down their homework.  At the end of the day they can check the list to make sure they have all of the books.
  • Have a homework folder that they put all of their homework in.  They will therefore only need to bring the folder and any textbooks home.
  • If they have an AM/PM binder they should bring it home every day since most likely at least one class in each binder will have homework.
  • If the student is really struggling to figure out what they need you can email the teacher in advance and ask what the child should bring home each day for that week.  You can make a list the night before if everything he or she needs to bring home.
  • Create a goal. From time to time everyone might forget something.  Try to cut down now often a book is forgotten.  You can begin with once a week, then twice a month, then once a month, ect

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